There are a large range of books out there that look at grief and dying. Some books are beautifully written, while others seem like you are reading something from WebMD with words you can’t even pronounce. So trying to find one that you’ll like and resonates with you can be hard.
That’s why I thought I would share the three books I liked the most and why I liked them.
My first recommendation was a book my counsellor let me borrow when I was seeing her many moons ago. I liked the book so much that I ended up ordering my own copy from Amazon.
‘OVERCOMING GRIEF: A self-help guide using cognitive behavioural techniques’ By Sue Morris.
This was one of the better books that I have read on grief. Although it is written from a psychologist point of view, the tone of the author is very warm and empathetic and it is like she is talking to you rather than you are reading a book. The book itself doesn’t read like one that is research heavy or jam-packed with medical terminology that you have to google every second word. It is reader friendly and relatable.
Each chapter is broken down into sections that includes research, case studies, grief myth busters and writing exercises and tips to help you through your grief.
One of my many ‘a-ah’ moments I read in the book came from this paragraph:
“Giving yourself permission to grieve the death of your loved one is essential if you want to overcome your grief… grieving does not mean ‘getting over’ the death of your loved one or forgetting them… it is giving yourself the time and space to get used to them not being here anymore…” (pg 35)
Up until that point, I had pigeon holed myself into a box, thinking “I should be over this by now”. But as we all know, that is not how grief works.
My second recommendation is a book I came across at my local council library by Australian authors Mal McKissock and Dianne McKissock titled “Coping with Grief”.
This book is a much shorter read than the first one and is just as easy. It is not heavy on medical terminology and really breaks down the grief process for the reader.
The whole first couple of chapters are what to expect when you first lose your loved one and the physically aspects of what happens to the body when it is going through something as traumatic as grief.
Unlike the first, I didn’t find it as helpful because it doesn’t have any case studies or helpful exercises to help you get through the grief.
However, I realise not everybody is like me and they might not find any benefit in case studies and grief exercises.
In saying that though, the authors have a great website where you can access some good reading material as well. You can access the website here
If you’re just looking for a book that doesn’t focus so much on what grief is but others that have experienced the loss of a parent then you might be interested in “My Mother, My father. On losing a parent” by Susan Wyndham.
The book is a collection of stories from others that have lost a parent and the lessons one learns from it. But let me warn you, you may find yourself getting teary with this one. The book will bring up memories of your own loss and find you reflecting on your loved one.
So there you have it. These are the three books that I recommend.
If you have a good book recommendation on grief or losing your parents, leave the title in the comments below!